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The Convocation Speech That Didn’t Make It

4 months ago Author By cumeadi

I’m thrilled to share that I’ll be delivering the convocation speech at my alma mater, the University of Illinois School of Liberal Arts and Sciences, on December 21st, 2024! It’s an honor to address the winter graduating class of 2024, and I’ve been putting a lot of thought into what I want to say.

I’ve gone through many drafts of my speech and am excited about the message I’ll share. I even collaborated with a professional speechwriter on one version, but ultimately decided it wasn’t right. Although well-written, it felt more like a lecture than the inspiring message I wanted to leave to the graduates.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the speech I didn’t use.

Convocation Speech: The Canvas of Purpose: Dreams and Diligence


University of Illinois Winter Convocation, December 21, 2024

Good evening, esteemed faculty, devoted parents, and, most importantly, the inspiring graduates of the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences, the bright torchbearers of our future.

It is a profound honor to stand before you today and celebrate this incredible milestone. We gather today not just to celebrate your years of hard work but to honor the resilience and determination that brought you to this moment. Every late-night study session, every challenge you faced, and every triumph, big or small has led to this defining achievement.

While today is a celebration of your accomplishments, I also want to share a powerful lesson that I have found is integral not just to my personal life but also to my work which has made it possible to stand before you today, and that is the power of dreaming and diligent work. In product management, success often hinges on striking a delicate balance between being a dreamer and a doer. The most successful product managers dare to envision what seems impossible, they dream of innovation, imagine transformative solutions, and see opportunities where others see obstacles.

A life of purpose always starts with being a Dreamer. Dreams are the seeds of every great achievement. Dreams are the sparks that ignite revolutions, the blueprints for breakthroughs, and the foundation of every meaningful life. They demand our courage, energy, and willingness to navigate uncharted territory. As Lawrence of Arabia once said: “All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up to find it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” Graduates I challenge you, to be the dangerous men and women who act on their dreams with open eyes.

However, we must acknowledge that dreaming with open eyes isn’t passive. It is active, requiring you to be behind the wheel, steering your vision toward reality. This is where diligence comes in, transforming visions into reality, Dreams are the seeds but they flourish only with diligence. Diligence is a word that has enthralled me, In Latin, the word diligentia means “carefulness” or “attentiveness.” It comes from the verb diligere, meaning “to love” or “to value highly.” In Greek, the concept of diligence is often tied to the word spoudé, which conveys the idea of earnestness, zeal, and urgency. Looking at these spectacular roots of the word diligent, diligent work therefore means you must Love and value your dream highly enough to pursue it with attentiveness, zeal, and urgency.

I learned this lesson first-hand from my parents. They came to the United States with a simple dream to create a future for their children and they worked tirelessly, sacrificing comforts to build something greater than themselves. And ultimately their sacrifice and diligence are the reason I stand here today. That is the transformative power of dreams, they ripple outward, touching lives beyond yourself.

But, to truly pursue your dreams with attentiveness, zeal, and urgency, you must first ensure they are YOUR dreams. As Dave Chappelle once said, “You have to be wise enough to know when you are living in your dream, and you have to be humble enough to accept when you are in someone else’s dream.”

You stand today as living testaments to the dreams of those who came before you, your parents, professors, and ancestors. Who sacrificed, guided, and believed in your potential. Now it’s your turn to carry the torch and define your dreams.

Ask yourself:

  • What is the dream I’m willing to fight for?
  • What impact do I want to make in the world?

There has never been a time more primed for powerful dreamers and diligent workers. As you step into the world beyond these walls, you step into a world filled with challenges. Knowing that should excite you, Bruce Lee said it best “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one, for it is in hardship that we find our greatest purpose.” The Challenges of our day demand dreamers to surmount them and I am confident you are that dreamer.

No matter what route your dream takes you on, remember: your path is your unique canvas, your dreams are the paint, and diligent work is the brushstroke that brings your masterpiece to life. Every act of effort, persistence, and care adds depth and meaning to your highly valued vision. Without action, the canvas remains blank, but with diligence, your dreams become a work of art that inspires and impacts the world.

Today I charge you Be the teacher who inspires generations to dream bigger. Be the writer who changes hearts and shapes narratives. Be the social worker who brings hope to the underserved. Be the human rights advocate who challenges injustice. Be the artist who stirs souls and redefines beauty. Be whoever you want to be.

To the parents: this moment is a testament to your sacrifices, love, and unwavering belief in your children. You’ve given them not just an education but the courage to dream bigger and the foundation to succeed. To the professors and administrators: thank you for shaping minds, inspiring growth, and nurturing leaders. Your commitment to their growth is a true reflection of the University’s motto of Learning and Labor.

Graduates, as you leave this ceremony and step into the next chapter of your lives, let your dreams be bold, your work be diligent, and your purpose be unwavering. Be fearless in the face of challenges. Be thoughtful in your actions. And above all, be true to yourself, remembering your unique path is your unique canvas.

Class of 2024, the world awaits your brilliance. Dare to dream boldly, work with unwavering diligence, and leave a legacy that inspires generations. Congratulations

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34

3 years ago Author By cumeadi

I wrote a Twitter thread I thought I’d capture on my blog. To read in its original form, here you go.

Yesterday was my birthday. 34 – A lot of great things happened in the last year across the board. I’m grateful for the continued success and evolution.

First off have to thank my tribe – my family, friends, and professional colleagues that have been in the trenches. Someone in a board meeting I was at mentioned a quote that stuck with me; “Many hands make light work.” I disagree.

It’s more like – Quality people with a noble purpose can overcome just about anything. Reminds me of the Margret Meed quote – “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Looking back at what I’ve done to get to where I am now at a point where brute force just won’t work anymore. Just by sheer hours committed, I’ve put more time into my areas of interest and reaped the rewards. But that’s not going to get me to the next level.

1. My body doesn’t respond like it use to – I need my sleep more than ever…lol… 2. TBH – I’ve traded off my wellness over professional execution for such a long time…. I’ve got some health and lifestyle debt to pay off.

3. With more responsibilities and even more audacious opportunities, it will become less about what I can do and more about who / what institutions I can build to accomplish the things I want to do – I’m excited about focusing more on building people than anything else.

4. Focus now is more important now than ever. At 34 – I hope to be ruthless in my focus. A lot of balls will drop for sure – but I think the most important – most impactful opportunities will rise to the top and I’ll shepherd them to the finish line.

5 . I’ve believed in doing work / operating in silence > making noise and not doing much. But for my star wars fans… Only the Sith deal in absolutes. There’s a middle ground where sharing and leading the conversation in areas you’re interested in benefits your work product.

My life’s been amazing so far – I’m so excited because I think we’re just getting started. 🙂

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Less Is More

3 years ago Author By cumeadi

I had an amazing 2021. There’s so much that’s happened to radically transform my life in 365 days. I’m super grateful but success begets new problems.

I’m constantly overwhelmed and feel like I don’t have time to get basic things done. I feel like weeks go by faster and faster but I have less time to do the things that are important to me.

I’ve tried to be more deliberate about my time toward the end of the year. I’ve started playing basketball again, taken time to jump into photography, and I took my ps4 back from my brother. (GTA 5 online)… Things that give me daily joy.

For 2022, I’m going to optimize for minimalism. Professionally, personally, and spiritually. I need more energy to focus on high-impact initiatives and relationships. What does this look like in practice? Here are some ideas:

  1. Selling some of my companies or hiring people to run full time.
  2. Getting rid of clothing
  3. Selling / consolidating my tech (apps/ hardware)
  4. Hiring people to deal with my complexity 🙂
  5. Elevating simplicity as a key factor for my decision making
  6. Decreasing social media footprint.

I’m going to reflect more on this as the year winds down. To be continued.

#MentalNote · Learning · Self-Revelation

Jesus Year

4 years ago Author By cumeadi

The Jesus Year is age 33, the year that scholars believe Jesus started a spiritual, political, and intellectual revolution. The Jesus Year is the age at which young people decide it is time to get serious about life, time to accomplish something.

I turned 33 at the beginning of April and to be honest, between COVID and some deaths in the family, there hasn’t been much to celebrate. My sister and Crystal mentioned they both do gratitude journals and I thought I’d share out 33 things I’m grateful for this year.

  1. I’m grateful for improving and overall good health
  2. I’m grateful for my parents and their health
  3. I’m grateful for my siblings.
  4. I’m grateful for Crystal.
  5. I’m grateful for my sister-in-law to be.
  6. I’m grateful for my extended family
  7. I’m grateful for my framily and family beyond blood.
  8. I’m grateful I get to do what I love every day at Google.
  9. I’m grateful for what I’ve built at tiphub
  10. I’m grateful for my past mistakes.
  11. I’m grateful for the time I enjoyed in Chicago.
  12. I’m grateful for my mentors that have guided me in this journey.
  13. I’m grateful for all the impromptu adventures around the world
  14. I’m grateful to be alive at this time.
  15. I’m grateful for having the opportunity to teach and share more about product management at General Assembly.
  16. I’m grateful for my car. It’s beautiful.
  17. I’m grateful for the pain and the joy in my life… It’s given everything more color.
  18. I’m grateful for the wisdom that comes with age
  19. I’m grateful Jay – Electronica actually came out with an album and I got to listen to it in my lifetime.
  20. I’m grateful for my time in DC. What a time.
  21. I’m grateful I had the chance to volunteer two years of my life for a greater cause.
  22. I’m grateful for my ability to continue to learn new things.
  23. I’m grateful for the luxury of watching all the bad movies on Netflix.
  24. I’m grateful for my youtube music subscription.
  25. I’m grateful I survived COVID-19
  26. I’m grateful for Jonathan Perrelli. He gave me my first shot at venture capital back in the day.
  27. I’m grateful for all the entrepreneurs I’ve had the chance to collaborate with.
  28. I’m grateful for Moderna.
  29. I’m grateful for Twitter.
  30. I’m grateful for Bollywood and Nollywood movies.
  31. I’m grateful for rainy days.
  32. I’m grateful for Cape Town’s beauty.
  33. I’m grateful for all my DM subscribers.

I’m grateful for all these things and more.

#MentalNote · Education · Politics

The Psychology of Cults

4 years ago Author By cumeadi

Like most of you, I watched the assault on the Capitol Building with disgust and sadness. For starters, the Capitol Building, when I lived in DC, was right down the street from my apartment. I could feel the enormity of the building every time that I passed it. You see, the Capitol Building is way more than just a building where the US Legislators pass laws. It’s a symbol of one of the three pillars of our government. It’s a standing testament to an enduring idea crafted by our forefathers and passed on from generation to generation.

While we all can agree on some of the main drivers that led to what we saw last week, there’s an underlying belief system / mental state that allowed people to be driven to insurrection. I’m going all the way back to my undergrad for this analysis… One of the toughest but most satisfying classes I’ve ever taken – Advanced Political Theory.

During the class, we studied less about politics and more about psychology, geography, sociology, and history. My professor loved using the analogy of cooking. “Most of your education has been focused on the meal, but if you want to become a chef that makes these meals, you have to respect the ingredients and techniques that put the food on the table.” he’d say. It felt like a defense against the dark arts class… for the Harry Potter fans out there.

We spent a lot of time talking about the psychology of the electorate and what drives people into a tribe-like mentality. We also spent time discussing how tribes can sometimes resemble cults. I had to dig to find my notes but my professor mentioned five truths we should be aware of when structuring in and out-groups and how they can easily turn into cults. For our use, we should be aware of these five truths if we are going to repair The United States and come out better on the other side of this.

* I’m in no way excusing what extreme Trump supporters are doing. I’m just highlighting five truths we should think about if we want to break people free of cults. Also, this isn’t just a US problem. “Radicalization” can happen within religion, politics, socially, etc. These truths tend to hold in all areas.

  1. Life is inherently comfortable and human being’s existence (specifically in the west) is focused on chasing comfort. Cults/Tribes provide comfort in an uncertain world. The world has changed so quickly in such a short time due to globalization, liberalization, and economic shifts. People are being left behind in this changing world and that can be leveraged to drive discomfort. Think about the rhetoric that has been used and what a lot of supporters mention. “Trump hears us.” “We feel forgotten but we now feel seen” Being listened to and remembered creates a level of comfort that can be manipulated if it’s not coming with the best intentions.
  2. Democrats vs Republicans created an in and out-group which that leads to us vs them framing. For some reason, our political affiliation has become one of the most salient parts of our identity, specifically for those who find themselves on the MAGA side of the spectrum. My hypothesis is social media has stripped away location, skin color, economic background and its become the great equalizer for the delivery of ideas. This isn’t to say that these attributes aren’t there, based on social saliency theory, specific attributes just rise to the top. As a result, it’s easier for people to create their own reality because they are talking with people that view their life through the same lens which also reinforces the idea of being heard and a sense of comfort.
  3. Cults tend to deal in absolutes. They provide an absolute way of looking at the world which helps create a more stable foundation. Think about it this way, the world is super complicated with many moving pieces. Some would say it’s even more complicated with the rapid change we’ve seen in the last twenty years. Cults tend to abstract complexity and provide simple explanations of why things are the way they are. This is normally easier to digest and manage for the person who wants to sort through an ever-changing reality. Now abstracting complexities is not all that bad but the process tends to make irrational jumps in logic and truth to create a more simple reality. This is why conspiracy theories and “fake news” is so essential to an absolute perspective. Conspiracy theories provide the framework for abstracted complexities and the fake news defense serves as a moat for any facts that may refute the conspiracy theories and the larger abstracted truth.
  4. Cult leaders are black belts in mind control. Let’s be frank. Trump is a master seller. He used this skill to catapult himself into the real estate industry and several of his other ventures. He leveraged his master skill to get the right people to vote for him back in 2016 and then brought out even more people in 2020. By reinforcing everything we’ve mentioned above, he’s used tactics like brainwashing (reinforcing lies by constantly saying them) and driving paranoia throughout his ranks. Trump did a great job of convincing people that the other (Everyone against him) and/or the government is out to get them, but his rallies and his group can provide safety. Once someone concludes that the “other” and country cannot keep them safe, they begin to worship and put all of their faith in the person who provides comfort and protection.
  5. Cults tend to focus on total control and less on optionality. If you’re controlling a person’s reality, allegiances, perspectives, and mobility, you might be leading a cult. Seems like control was an under-current for MAGA and a lot of Trump rhetoric. As a result, a subgroup of people answered the call to storm the Capitol Building in DC and other legislative buildings throughout the United States.

Once again, this isn’t to excuse. To use my professor’s analogy, we need to understand the key ingredients that led to the food we’re forced to serve. Even in this explanation, I’m sure you can see some areas where the private sector and the US government can drive reform to ensure this doesn’t happen again.