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Behind the Velvet Rope: The Rise of Youth-Driven Social Clubs in Lagos

3 weeks ago By cumeadi

How a new wave of social clubs in Lagos mirrors global shifts in third spaces, exclusivity, and the psychology of belonging.

Introduction: Something’s Changing in Lagos

On a recent return to Lagos, something felt different. Beneath the surface of the city’s usual bustle—tech conferences, gallery shows, rooftop brunches—there was a quieter transformation taking place. Discreetly, new social clubs were emerging. Not the old-guard kind with blazers and brandy. These were intimate, design-forward spaces that attracted a different crowd: 25 to 40-somethings with sneakers, strategy decks, and a soft spot for natural wine.

It wasn’t just a vibe shift. It was cultural infrastructure being rebuilt in real time. And interestingly, Lagos might be ahead of the curve here—outpacing similar movements happening in London, New York, and Johannesburg.

A Brief History of Belonging: From Pre-Colonial to Post-Modern

Long before modern clubs, West African societies were structured around guilds, age-grade systems, and secret societies that doubled as community centers, spiritual hubs, and informal networks of influence. The Yoruba Ogboni society, for instance, was both sacred and civic—a fusion of ritual, power, and social cohesion.

Then came colonialism, and with it, British-style social clubs—designed for expatriates, later adapted for Nigerian elites. The Ikoyi Club (1938) and the Lagos Motor Boat Club (est. 1950s) became symbols of post-colonial status, complete with golf tees, international tennis, and Scotch-soaked diplomacy. They were exclusive in the traditional sense: formal, generational, and heavily male.

But the world has changed. The idea of belonging has evolved. And so has Lagos.

Why Now?

Across cities worldwide, “third places”—the neutral zones between home and work—are disappearing. Churches are less frequented. Cafés have turned into Zoom hubs. Gyms feel impersonal. People are craving something more human, more intimate, more intentional.

In Lagos, that craving is intensified by the pace and pressure of urban hustle. Enter the modern social club: a curated space for Lagos’s creative class, startup crowd, and culture heads to gather, decompress, and quietly flex.

These aren’t just new nightlife options—they’re sites of identity construction. They serve as both refuge and runway for a generation negotiating local roots and global fluency.

Psychology, Exclusivity & Soft Status

Modern club culture operates on soft power—not who you are, but who you seem to be. The art on the walls, the playlists, the bar menu—these are all semiotic markers in a new form of status signaling. In Lagos, where class and identity are often inherited, these clubs offer a new, more performative—and sometimes more accessible—path to cultural capital.

But there’s a psychological layer too: these spaces function as refuges. For a generation burnt out by constant hustle and the hyper-visibility of social media, they offer intimacy, discretion, and self-definition on one’s own terms.

Curation as the New Hospitality

What makes these clubs unique isn’t the food or the drinks—it’s the intent. Every element is curated to attract a specific kind of person: creative but focused, expressive but serious, local with global fluency. You’re not just going out—you’re entering a room that affirms the version of yourself you’re trying to become.

This echoes a global hospitality shift, where the product is no longer a place or service—but a vibe, a story, a scene. Clubs aren’t just selling access; they’re selling meaning.

But Who Gets In? The Double-Edged Sword

Of course, with curation comes gatekeeping. Membership often requires referrals. Dues aren’t cheap. Aesthetics lean a certain direction. As with their global counterparts, the Lagos scene must reckon with questions of access and representation.

Can these spaces scale without losing their soul? Can they democratize without diluting? If they can answer those questions, they might become more than hotspots. They could be blueprints for a new kind of urban community infrastructure.

Conclusion: Lagos Leading Quietly

Lagos has always held the tension between spectacle and subtlety, chaos and code. The rise of youth-driven social clubs reflects a city—and a generation—in flux. These new spaces aren’t replacing tradition; they’re remixing it. Blending pre-colonial community spirit, colonial club structure, and post-modern identity politics into something that feels… timely.

As cities across the world rethink how we gather, Lagos offers a compelling case study in quiet leadership. If the third space is being redefined globally, Lagos is already living in the future.

Is Protesting Effective?

5 years ago By cumeadi

So for those asking the question, “Are riots/protests really effective?” There’s some research from Omar Wasow, an associate professor at Princeton, that takes a look at Black protests in the 1960s and its ability to move elites, shape public opinion, and voting. If you don’t feel like reading the whole thing, here are some quick takeaways:

1. Violent tactics by the state or protesters operate as a double-edged sword. State repression subjugates activists but focuses media attention on the concerns of nonviolent protesters. While violent tactics by protestors are framed as a breach of law and order.

2. Black activists overcame structural biases, framed news, directed elite discourse, swayed public opinion & won at the ballot box. An “eye for an eye” in response to violent repression may be moral & just but this research suggests it may not be strategic, but it achieved its goal.

This time around, three main changes will enhance or detract from its effectiveness.

1. Fragmented media – People have more media channels that are skewed to their already existing notions of reality. (Facebook groups/ TL, twitter followers, more skewed tv media)

2. Decentralized first-hand reporting – Everyone with a camera provides a unique perspective which leads to a diversity of data points that can reinforce or detract from a multitude of narratives.

3. Rapid mobilization of protestors. Now more than ever, it’s easier to scale protests beyond a particular city, which can lead to a larger dichotomy between local, regional and national narratives.

product · startups · Technology · Why?

Design Thinking in the Nigerian Context

9 years ago By cumeadi

It’s 2 AM and the electricity goes out. Annoyed, you walk outside to turn the generator on. In the process of turning the generator on, you realize there’s no gas in the gen. In the pitch black of night, its not difficult to see the large red canister of gas a couple of steps away. You get the canister and start to attempt to fill the gen. You realize there’s too much gas in the canister and its difficult to control the amount that goes into the gen so you start to think… You go into the kitchen and get a used plastic bottle, cut it in half and now you’ve created a funnel and cup. You head back outside, put the makeshift funnel on the gen and begin to fill the cup with gas and pour it in the funnel. You fill the tank, turn the gen on, and go back to sleep.

That story is design thinking in action. I’d argue with anyone that design thinking is not a process that Nigerians are foreign to. In fact, it’s been at the ethos at most grassroots solutions. There are so many small inventions and quick fixes that I see everyday. Why don’t you see some of these solutions in the market? I believe the challenges are threefold:

How do you get people to see their solution as valuable outside themselves?
How do you provide the platform for people to producttize/ commercialize their already working prototypes?
How do you protect ideas and create incentives for people to continue to create?

How do you get people to see their solution as valuable outside themselves?

This is consequence of innovating to live vs innovating to thrive. People are brilliant problem solvers in developing markets because they have to in order to survive. Design thinking concepts tend to become a framework that most people operate in without knowing it. The challenge is being able to think beyond the problem, which is challenging for the problem solvers. I would suggest getting up to the balcony like in this story below:

Let’s say you are dancing in a big ballroom. . . . Most of your attention focuses on your dance partner, and you reserve whatever is left to make sure you don’t collide with dancers close by. . . . When someone asks you later about the dance, you exclaim, “The band played great, and the place surged with dancers.”

But, if you had gone up to the balcony and looked down on the dance floor, you might have seen a very different picture. You would have noticed all sorts of patterns. . . you might have noticed that when slow music played, only some people danced; when the tempo increased, others stepped onto the floor; and some people never seemed to dance at all. . . . the dancers all clustered at one end of the floor, as far away from the band as possible. . . . You might have reported that participation was sporadic, the band played too loud, and you only danced to fast music.

. . .The only way you can gain both a clearer view of reality and some perspective on the bigger picture is by distancing yourself from the fray. . . .

If you want to affect what is happening, you must return to the dance floor.*-Ronald Heifetz

That often the most challenging place for problem solvers to get to but is central to seeing the value in an idea or a new process.

How do you provide the platform for people to producttize/ commercialize their already working prototypes?

This a more systemic and structural problem. With a lack of manufacturing and capital in developing markets, it’s often impossible to scale a new idea. I believe the improvement of technologies like 3D printing hold a tremendous opportunity to decrease the cost and increase the accessibility of manufacturing to the masses.

How do you protect ideas and create incentives for people to continue to create?

This is an interesting challenge that all countries face now. How do you protect people who create, while encouraging the free exchange of ideas so people can build upon them? Legal spaces like IP and copyright may not be as developed in a place like Nigeria but it presents a great opportunity to re-imagine what IP/Copyright law can look like in the information sharing age.

Random · Self-Revelation · Why?

Beware The Ides of March

9 years ago By cumeadi

Beware The Ides of March is the original “Winter is coming” of doom and gloom. I knew it was was from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, but I never really understood the Ides part until a quick Google search gave some clarity.

” Months of the Roman Calendar were arranged around three named days – the Kalends, the Nones and the Ides- and these were reference points form which the other unnamed days were calculated

Kalends (1st day of the month)

Nones(the 7th day in March, May, July, and October; the 5th in other months)

Ides (the 15th day in March, May, July, and October; the 13th in the other months)”

Ides =15th of March which makes it even more depressing. Someone tells you the exact time you’re going to be assassinated? That’s rough.

Politics · product · Technology · Why?

Kobayashi and the Leader of the Free World

9 years ago By cumeadi

***Disclaimer…. I’m a huge Star Trek fan. I’ve tried to simplify a little bit so you don’t have to know as much about Star Trek to understand what I’m trying to say.***

Kobayashi Maru is a star fleet training exercise that is used to evaluate a commander’s character and fortitude. The simulation in the Star Trek universe allows the cadet to command a federation star ship, and sends them to aid another Federation vessel, the Kobayashi Maru. The disabled ship is adrift in the Klingon neutral zone, and the ship commanded by the cadet entering the zone will be in violation of a treaty and liable to attack.

The cadet has to decide whether to rescue the stranded ship, creating an opportunity for an all-out war with the Klingons and jeopardizing his or her own vessel and crew-mates’ lives in the process, or leave the Kobayashi Maru to eventual destruction. If the cadet attempts to save the vessel, the simulation is programmed to guarantee that his or her own ship will be destroyed. Not only will he be unsuccessful in saving the Kobayashi Maru, but everyone else will die as well.

The object is to test the cadet’s character and presence of mind in the face of large-scale disaster and certain death. The creation of the Kobayashi Maru isn’t discussed as much in Star Trek cannon, although in the most recent reboot, it’s shown that Spock was the preliminary designer of the test. His Vulcan sense of logic proved to be very helpful in constructing the no win scenario.

When deciding on leaders, humans traditionally follow our gut and how we feel about a person. The mental models an heuristics used to make snap decisions on who to follow are legacy from our early days when we had to be very cautious about who we were hunting and gathering with. We decide leaders based on what they say but even more on how we perceive them. Don’t believe me? Take a read about JFK VS Nixon here.

While we can never get rid of the human perspective, shouldn’t we be responsible for aiding better decisions in who should be leaders? We should have our own Kobayashi Maru that we use to vet leaders where we can objectively see their character and fortitude. To be more specific, the president of the United States should be put through more than just public opinion to become president. We have the history of the world and technology to create all possible and future scenarios to test a candidate’s decision making skills. It’s not a heavy lift at all. Here are the steps:

Recognize that we are currently incapable of making the best decisions without more information.
Develop a Kobayashi Maru equivalent that runs through a week of various possible scenarios (domestic disasters, economic collapse, political brinkmanship,etc).
Have the potential president pick their team.
Run the simulations… Evaluate the results.

The hardest step is 1. Everything else is super doable. Our armed forces train just like this. I don’t think its too much to ask a potential Commander in Chief to go through similar training and evaluation.

There’s a lot of responsibility involved with picking the next leader of the free world . Citizens should look at a Kobayashi Maru like exam as an opportunity to improve our decision making by exposing the decision making process of our future leaders in life- like situations.

Or we can just watch them play The Sims.